He Said, She Said

“Just because you are right,

does not mean, I am wrong!

You just haven’t seen life,

from my side.”

 

This quote has changed the way I deal with arguments and blame. My wife and I had arguments from time to time, and moments when we felt RIGHT to think or believe the way we did. Not only is this dangerous, but it’s not always true from the other’s perspective. Imagine if you and your spouse are going away on vacation. What can be more annoying than filling out a customs form before landing in your dream destination? As you’re sorting through information, even the most basic lines can get confusing. Here’s a story that I thought about that can explain my point:

“Why do we got to go through the same thing over and over again?” Josh said, stretching his neck. A neck pillow caressed his upper shoulders as he leaned towards the customs form. “Where are we going then?” Ashley said. The pen hovered over her form. “We’re going to Costa Rica,” Josh pointed to the form. “Write it here!” She wrote it in bold letters as he watched over her. “You know the date?” Ashley looked over her shoulder as she spoke. Josh gave her a look of utter disappointment. “Why Costa Rica written in the address column?” Ashley slammed her pen on the sliding tray, with deep ridges forming across her forehead. “That’s where we’re going, right?” Trying to maintain his composure, Josh sighed and pointed to the correct place.

Next, I decided to write the story backwards to show the difference between the couple’s point of view. 

Trying to maintain his composure, Josh sighed and pointed to the correct place. “That’s where we’re going, right?” Ashley slammed her pen on the sliding tray, with deep ridges forming across her forehead. “Why Costa Rica written in the address column?” Josh gave her a look of utter disappointment. Ashley looked over her shoulder as she spoke. “You know the date?” She wrote it in bold letters as he watched over her. “Write it here!” Josh pointed to the form. “We’re going to Costa Rica,” The pen hovered over the form. “Where are we going then?” Ashley said. A neck pillow caressed his upper shoulders as he leaned towards the custom form. Josh said, stretching his neck, “Why do we got to go through the same thing over and over again?”

How’s that for perspective?  🙂

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